HOW TO DEAL WITH NEIGHBORHOOD RELATIONSHIP SCANDAL

Have you ever faced scandals or gossip concerning your private life or relationship with the opposite sex? Whether you admit it or not, a lot of people have been confronted with relationship or sex scandals either within their neighborhood, office, schools, churches or other places of interest. The truth remains that in every scandal, the object of focus is either innocent or guilty as accused. But however it comes, scandals are always very discomforting.

Dealing with the opposite sex is one of the most challenging tasks in relationships, love and life. In all stages of growing up, you might never attain full maturity in relationships if you have not learnt to deal with issues such as relationship crises or scandals. Although its occurrence largely depends on kind of environment one lives, it occurs more in hotly socialized neighborhoods.

I do not believe that it is a social ill to be gossiped about or involved in scandals. In fact, people are mostly scandalized because some other people feel intimidated by the former’s prowess – be it negative or positive. Please get me right – when you are known to be successful in multiple dates, when ladies easily succumb to your advances, when women naturally love to come close to you, people must always talk about you.

Now you may say all these feats mentioned above are negative attributes. When people love to relate with you for being open-minded and kind, when your generosity attracts people of both sexes to you, whatever you do with other people especially with the opposite sex easily attracts gossip or scandals.



Dealing with love and relationship scandals

When you are faced with all these scandalous challenges, how do you manage them? How do you react when information about you start flying here and there over your alleged affair with your female neighbor, your classmate, your colleague in the office, a fellow chorister in your church choir etc.?

There are many ways to successfully manage or deal with scandals and come out unruffled. However scandals exist because people are interested in what you do. If no one is interested in what concerns you, life would not be profitable and fun. Take advantage of people’s interest in you, transform them into stepping stones and clinb higher towards your target.

Strategies to Deal with Scandals

When you hear of any scandals concerning you, whether on love affair, relationship or illicit affair allegation, here are things to do to weaken the source of the scandal;

Never appear disturbed by the development: - Slanderers always expect the impact of their scandalous gossip to hit you by changes in your appearance. Your reaction and disposition at the time of being aware of the scandal shows what the possible outcome could be. Regrettably, this is what gives your slanderers the impetus to fine-tune their scandals against you and fight on. Therefore looking happier and unruffled will surely disarm and throw them into confusion.

Check inwardly and amend your ways, then move on: - It is said that when your enemy speaks about you, that is the time to listen more attentively. Fortunately but unknown to them, your enemies give out true information about you which they believe would break you when heard. Applying wisdom in the face of any scandal demands that you look inward to examine yourself, find areas to amend your ways and then forge ahead without showing any obvious bad feelings.

Always put on that smiley face: - Being cheerful always will always undermine your enemy’s effort to scandalize and destroy you. This portrays you as scandal-proof.

Always expect the worst at any time: - The truth remains that so long as you continue minding your business, living your life, carrying on in that love and relationship, scandals will always exist around you. It never ceases so long as you remain a person of interest to people. Therefore always expect the worst. This strengthens you for any unforeseen scandalous eventuality.

Consistency in doing what you feel is right and noble is the key: - it pays to be consistent. Persistence in doing what you feel is right and noble will make your slanderers weak and give up. Your persivereace is a sign of strength in character which is an indication of a worthy personality.

It is important to note that when faced with any form of scandal, it is a test to your real character. Those who gossip about you are only submitting to your superiority.